There seems to be a trend that is pretty well-established in Hollywood, but unfortunately has also inked its way into literature and other various art forms as well, and its one I do not like nor do I think its effects are positive.

What do I mean by that? Well let’s think about this for a moment; Name one TV show in recent memory where a relationship between two characters sprouted, and it actually survived the series. Same thing with movies… While I’m sure there are some out there, none immediately come to mind.

I started noticing it little by little over time, but then it really came to a head when it came to my wife’s turn to pick a movie for us to see… and she chose La La Land…

Okay my own issues with this movie aside, it ended on a real downer with the couple splitting up and going their separate ways, each getting the fame they wanted, but neither necessarily the better for it.

This is not the only example either… in Jurassic Park, Dr.s Grant and Satler split up between movies despite all the build up and character development that hinted towards the two of them having kids one day… essentially making the first movie’s character development pointless.

Indiana Jones wouldn’t see a recurrent love interest until the forgettable fourth film. National Treasure saw our lead kicked out of his own home by the love interest. In How I Met Your Mother, ONE a single relationship survives the series giving the series a .00001% success rate (blame Ted). In one of my wife’s favorites, Grey’s Anatomy, not even the marriage between the two main characters survived and a couple characters are struggling through their second marriages… the show is still ongoing so we’ll see how this goes…

In comic form, Cyclops leaves his loving wife and young son, and BOTH go through a character assassination for Jean Grey to return. She later gets killed off and Cyclops winds up with the White Queen. Colossus is now gay so… sorry Kitty!

Worst of all, perhaps the most entertaining relationship in Marvel; Mockingbird and Hawkeye didn’t survive.

Really the list just keeps on rolling. I see it in written form too…

But Jim, in this day and age, marriages don’t last. The odds are actually against it.

Actually the latest statistics are that between 40-50% of marriages end in divorce. That likely places the number at 45%. It also doesn’t take into account marriages of convenience, people who marry, remarry, and remarry again, nor does it take into account the behavior of the Hollywood cesspool.

Well Jim, wouldn’t you say that’s part of the problem? Look at the role models!

Not really… first of all, anyone who views the Hollywood elites as role models needs a dose of reality. That place is a cesspool of corruption, deviancy, and KNOWN child sex trafficking. Anyone who has children that look up to Hollywood celebs really need to re-examine their parenting.

Also, that statement doesn’t hold true anyway. Celebs that choose to keep their relationships out of the public eye… usually by moving out of LA, but also through other means which sometimes include reducing their career-load and/or exposure, survive just fine.

Christopher Lee, one of my all-time heroes was married for 54 years until his death.

Sarah Michelle Gellar and Freddie Prinze Jr. have stepped back from the spotlight taking more… behind the scenes and voice acting roles and they’ve been married for 12 years.

Kurt Russel and Goldie Hawn, two big names from the 80s and early 90s have been together for 34 years. You don’t see them in much anymore, but they do pop up from time to time.

Matt Damon has gone to impressive lengths to keep his family out of the spotlight and he’s been married for 12 years.

I get that these are the exception, not the rule, but they do further my point.

Anyway, yes I get it, we’re in the middle of a family crisis which I think writers and artists in multiple mediums are taking WAY too lightly. In many of these cases, we see these relationships end, and both parties go their separate ways. They don’t take into account the emotional, financial, and even psychological damage that can take place. It’s sort of glossed over in many cases.

That’s not even taking into account the effect it has on children, whom statistics and most mental health professionals show that children do better in stable, two-parent households.

This is really not good people. In my opinion, this has had a negative effect on almost ALL storytelling mediums in a very drastic and sad way. How you might ask? Consider… you watch a show or a movie and two characters get together that you really like. The couple is… for lack of a better term ADORABLE together. They get married and everything is going great. Given what’s been going on lately, are you going to get invested in that couple? Are you going to savor it?


Given that the chances of said relationship surviving, especially if its early in the movie/book/series/etc, getting emotionally involved will just lead to disappointment later. The result? The great character development and immersion is lost on people who subconsciously put up walls to prevent the disappointment. Most of the time they aren’t even cognoscente of the fact that they’re doing it.

A few of my friends who have read my stories have said that they’re a little romance-heavy… well those are also friends who all to often turn out to be shocked when a relationship actually survives a movie series, TV series, or Book series.

That’s right, a strong successful relationship has been reduced to a PLOT TWIST!

Look I understand that not every relationship is meant to last, and you can argue that most people go through an average of 5 or 6 relationships before they find ‘the one,’ and you’d be right… but not marriages, live-in partners, or long term (4+ years) relationships!

So I’m not saying don’t write in breakups, don’t kill off the love interest, don’t not write about infidelity or divorce… what I am saying is that it might be refreshing to have successful relationships become a little more common… or at the very least try to take the damage done by parting ways more seriously instead of just glossing over it!

Anyway, readers what do you think? Am I being melodramatic or have you noticed something similar?


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8 Comments on “The Love/Hate with Relationship Writing

  1. Such an interesting point I have never even noticed it! I think the reason we have so many failed relationships in tv, film and books is that society still hasn’t evolved to a statisfactory state and in years to come it won’t because we are constantly changing!

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  2. It’s an interesting point. I think you see it alot in movies, books etc that anyone who is high powered WILL have an affair. It is a given this will happen- Hollywood casually ignoring the fact the most succesful folks in business and politics often have very stable relationships and say it really helps them to have a partner they can rely on.

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  3. Relationships are often viewed as disposable and this is reflected in all media.
    When I watch a show, I’ll use Stargate SG-1 as an example, I liked the tension between O’Neill and Carter and I did NOT want them to be together – it would have ruined the whole show. The same with Castle, when the two main characters got together, the show jumped the shark. In my opinion.
    As with a lot of films/books/TV shows, relationships are created under duress. People are thrown together by dangerous circumstances and when the situation ends, often so does the relationship. It is no longer exciting and new. Life becomes mundane and people get bored.
    In my novel, Wheeler, the main characters stay together, but it’s a rocky road. Love is not a fairytale. It’s two people with a lot of baggage, trying to build something out of the initial chemistry they both feel. Sure, there’s periods of excitement and drama – it’s the nature of their professions (she’s a pro cyclist, he’s an A-list actor) – but when two people want the relationship, they’ll make the effort.


  4. A relationship that can survive troubles is often more a interesting story line. I’ve noticed relationship split up over silly reasons in long running series and it sometimes seams the writers are short of story lines so opt for relationship break ups.


  5. Ok. I do see your point, and, yes, I’d love to see more fictional couples that make it work, but there is always the problem of tension to deal with. Happy, successful couples in real life cope better with the problems life throws at them than people who are in unsuccessful relationships or who are unhappily single. The same goes for fictional characters. It’s hard then to write characters who remain successful in love. I’m not saying it can’t or shouldn’t be done, but it is challenging.


  6. I haven’t thought about relationships being a plot twist, but people seem to believe in unicorns and leprechauns before they believe undying love is real.


  7. My pet peeve is when the couple is undone between movies to make the plot or subplot about bringing them together again, thus rehashing the same subplot. The studios, directors, writers, and editors seem to only want to tell about couples getting together but not the challenges of staying together.


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