Hi Jim,

A central theme in a lot of your writing seems to be love. I was just wondering, as someone who is trying to get his foot in the door with romance novels, how important is marriage in your books?


Hi Jermaine,

Good question. The truth is that I’m one of a dwindling crowd that still believes in marriage. Do I believe that two people belong together for life? Not in every case, but it can and does happen. If two people love each other enough, they can make it work. One may have to sacrifice here, another may have to make a change there. The problem, as I see it in a lot of cases is that people get set in there ways, aren’t willing to respond to change and are not willing to do the work to keep a marriage stable.
This is almost… (Oh God) ten years of marriage talking. It’s not always easy and it does take a lot of work and patience.

Now, you didn’t write to me for marriage advice, so let me get back on track and answer your question… How important is it? Important, but not the be all, end all.

Keeping in mind, in my latest books there’s only one instance of the characters actually getting married.

In Soul Siphon, while two characters are together and love each other, the book ends very early in their relationship.
In The Story of Raiya, Raiya and Jagger drive off into the sunset and refer to each other as ‘partners’. This is a little more alluded to in next book where Jagger refers to Raiya in a more possessive way, which she playfully calls him out on, but still there is no mention of marriage.

In The Orphans of Haven, Radley dies right after Qira tells him how she feels. When their minds merge at the last second, she technically becomes mated to him by imprinting, but that’s more of a physical/mental bond. The emotional concept of marriage doesn’t get a chance to manifest, so it’s never really explored.

An Empire of Ashes is the one time we have two characters marry. Nayeli and Joaquim, after spending years together on the run, decide to get married when she reveals that she’s imprinted on him. Again, this is after years of them being together and after the bond is already established.

So the question should probably be more geared to the idea of a lifelong, loving, partnership between two people. If that’s your definition of marriage, then unless you’re going with a tragic romance or something of a summer fling novel, then IMHO it’s very important.
A lot of people consider marriage itself to be more of a religious/legal bind. I do not agree as I think there’s something more spiritual in it’s affirmation, but if that is the definition we’re going with, then it’s not essential at all.

Anyway, I hope this answers your question. Let’s open it up to see what the readers think.


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2 Comments on “Essential is the Marriage! #Writing #Author #Advice

  1. “The problem, as I see it in a lot of cases is that people get set in there ways, aren’t willing to respond to change and are not willing to do the work to keep a marriage stable.” — That is as plain as it gets! Marriage takes effort and compromise (compromise that makes sense, not break down the other partner). We all change over the years and it’s natural and should be expected. Great post!

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  2. If I was to share my opinion on fantasy specifically (because that’s what I’m involved with the most), then there might be a difference between a formal marriage (reminiscent of the way we see it now – a formal act before an official of a church or an official of the state, such as a designated town hall employee) and various alternatives such as the mentioned spiritual bond or a promise/ritual before a higher power (such as a god or demigod) that bears higher value for the involved pair despite not bearing the same formal value. In such a case, it might be a way to explore the setting/culture and how they see pairing (and the value of a formal act vs. a bond sealed in magic or on a mental level, for example) – which would also show which is more important for the involved pair.

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